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Rescuing a Child by Stopping Labeling

“Labeling” is a well known concept in social-pyschology. Apparently not very well known in education. Or known in reverse.

Today, please consider one of my other victory stories. I saved a child. He was labelled as “bad.” I don’t know why. He was being hounded by his first grade teacher. What stories! And was being treated like he was recalcitrant and behind. He was not. He was acting normal, but he was bored — because he was extra bright.

I was Academic Dean. I was in the classroom helping a new to the school but experienced teacher. Thank God, I saw what as going on!

Let’s not leave it at one child rescued academically — and surely you know a bright 7 year old boy, labelled as bad would end up with behavior problems. The juvenile halls are filled with “learning disabled” boys! Let’s learn how to avoid these problems.

Let’s be sure our children, and our students are labeled. And let’s reform teaching all together — but that will be another book and another episode.

The power of words. No where more powerful than in the ears of a young child!

Labeling – Children Live up to What Their Teachers Think of Them

Labeling Understood in Social Science

Labeling is a long standing theory in social sciences which basically says that people (and especially children) live up — or down– to what the people (especially the authority figures) around them think about them. A child who is told and expected to be smart, pretty, or competent generally is. A child who is told that she is a slut or he is a dumbass — usually ends up acting that way.

Teachers should know this. It should be in their curricula in college. It certainly is in Introductory Sociology and in Pyschology courses. Why then to teachers demonstrate and live out labeling theory instead of apply the wisdom from knowing about it?

What I’ve Seen

When I was in graduate school in the 1990s, the one Sociological paper about Learning Disabilities found that teachers thought LD was Mental Retardation. When I substituted in 2006, I certainly saw this play out. Teachers treated any “special needs” student with contempt and extraordinarily low expectations. My short time in the class could turn the situation around — but I doubt permanent change would remain.

When I was Academic Dean, I saw teachers make bright student’s life hell because of teacher gossip. When the student is a 7 year old, too bright for the class, and yet bedevilled by negative fantasies of the teacher…. it is exasperating. I was in the classroom. I saw it.

I was not in the classroom of my daughter’s third grade classroom, but the mother of another student let me know that the teacher there used bullying and name-calling regularly in the classroom. We are talking about the 1980s. In front of me, even, the teacher declared that my daughter could not read. But when the teacher turned her back, my daughter turned to the back of the book and read the page fine.

One shudders to consider how labeling is working in today’s hyper-sexualized, extremely disrespectful environment.

Hear the Episode

Let’s consider labeling. It has detrimental effects. Unfortunately, we see these more often with students with diagnoses and learning problems.

It could have good effects. If only….

Dr. Ted Edwards Talks to us about Forgiveness as Vital to Healing

Back when we were on the radio, Dr. Ted Edwards, MD, well known in Austin as a leading physician regarding female hormones and longevity. What is also true is that he was an active Baptist layman. Told me a story about testifying to his (tall steeple) pastor while on a leisure walk.

Today, he talks about forgiveness and the important of such in healing. Holding onto resentment causes people to not heal up. Even can make disease come back.

Not about making sin okay, but about giving it to God, so that we don’t keep hurting. In Greek “forgiveness” is from aphesis, which can be translated either as “remittance of sin” and as “letting it go”   A friend says, “giving it to God.”  That is like “rolling your cares onto Jesus.”

I notice that Dave Asprey on his podcast with Dr. Caroline Leaf said his idea of forgiveness is like choosing not to be quantumly entangled.

Enjoy. Be free.

Something CAN be Done! Engage!

Sometimes we feel overwhelmed. Sometimes we feel scared, too timid to do anything.Sometimes we are confused about what is the right thing to do. Sometimes we are sleepy.  Sometimes we are discouraged. Sometimes we are tired. Sometimes we are distracted by our addictions. Sometimes then, we are overwhelmed.

TIME TO PULL OURSELVES OUT OF WHATEVER MUD WE ARE STUCK IN!

Let’s engage our faith for a better future for our children. For better children.

The greatest legacy we leave is what we leave IN our children. But so often, we are under the circumstances. When our arms are weighed down, often we have to lift our hearts first. This is a call to envision better. To believe for better. That is the way… and then THE LORD has a container to fill.  It is HE would will give our arms strength — even strength beyond what we can imagine. But first, let us lift up our eyes.

Better can happen. We can fly up. First, we have to stop aiming down. “Nothing can be done,” is a lie. It seems like it is comfort, but really, it is enslaving!

SOMETHING CAN BE DONE! Lift up your eyes. Engage your faith!