Category Archives: Encouragement

Labeling – Children Live up to What Their Teachers Think of Them

Labeling Understood in Social Science

Labeling is a long standing theory in social sciences which basically says that people (and especially children) live up — or down– to what the people (especially the authority figures) around them think about them. A child who is told and expected to be smart, pretty, or competent generally is. A child who is told that she is a slut or he is a dumbass — usually ends up acting that way.

Teachers should know this. It should be in their curricula in college. It certainly is in Introductory Sociology and in Pyschology courses. Why then to teachers demonstrate and live out labeling theory instead of apply the wisdom from knowing about it?

What I’ve Seen

When I was in graduate school in the 1990s, the one Sociological paper about Learning Disabilities found that teachers thought LD was Mental Retardation. When I substituted in 2006, I certainly saw this play out. Teachers treated any “special needs” student with contempt and extraordinarily low expectations. My short time in the class could turn the situation around — but I doubt permanent change would remain.

When I was Academic Dean, I saw teachers make bright student’s life hell because of teacher gossip. When the student is a 7 year old, too bright for the class, and yet bedevilled by negative fantasies of the teacher…. it is exasperating. I was in the classroom. I saw it.

I was not in the classroom of my daughter’s third grade classroom, but the mother of another student let me know that the teacher there used bullying and name-calling regularly in the classroom. We are talking about the 1980s. In front of me, even, the teacher declared that my daughter could not read. But when the teacher turned her back, my daughter turned to the back of the book and read the page fine.

One shudders to consider how labeling is working in today’s hyper-sexualized, extremely disrespectful environment.

Hear the Episode

Let’s consider labeling. It has detrimental effects. Unfortunately, we see these more often with students with diagnoses and learning problems.

It could have good effects. If only….

Can We Handle His/Her Learning Disability in Homeschool?

Should we take our child out of government school? Oh my gosh yes! What are you waiting for?

Can we handle his/her learning disability? Oh my gosh, yes! Let’s break it down.

How well are things going now? What is the best solution to your child’s learning problem? Can’t that be remedied at home better than at school?

What is a learning disability, anyway? How has that language shifted the conversation?

Let’s talk.

 

by the way, The Home School Legal Defense Association was founded by lawyer parents who saw a need for their own children to be homeschooled, and realized that other parents needed their legal help . Here is their website : https://hslda.org/

Effective Trauma Therapy

Dr. Lendell Braud, Ph.D. brings us report of effective trauma therapy. After a career of teaching at Texas Southern and working with traumatized and at risk children both in private practice and in partnership with several charity organization, she is now working with veteran residential treatment centers around the country.

Please hear her time-tested ideas. Please hear her “guided imagery” as a way to walk people of any stripe toward hearing from and communing with God. Acknowledge that because she is a psychologist, working with public universities and a wide range of people, that she is not permitted to use religious language. So please listen, even if not in your particular denominational dialect.

Our hearts and prayers go with flood victims and responders.

 

Something CAN be Done! Engage!

Sometimes we feel overwhelmed. Sometimes we feel scared, too timid to do anything.Sometimes we are confused about what is the right thing to do. Sometimes we are sleepy.  Sometimes we are discouraged. Sometimes we are tired. Sometimes we are distracted by our addictions. Sometimes then, we are overwhelmed.

TIME TO PULL OURSELVES OUT OF WHATEVER MUD WE ARE STUCK IN!

Let’s engage our faith for a better future for our children. For better children.

The greatest legacy we leave is what we leave IN our children. But so often, we are under the circumstances. When our arms are weighed down, often we have to lift our hearts first. This is a call to envision better. To believe for better. That is the way… and then THE LORD has a container to fill.  It is HE would will give our arms strength — even strength beyond what we can imagine. But first, let us lift up our eyes.

Better can happen. We can fly up. First, we have to stop aiming down. “Nothing can be done,” is a lie. It seems like it is comfort, but really, it is enslaving!

SOMETHING CAN BE DONE! Lift up your eyes. Engage your faith!