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Dani Johnson on her Grooming the Next Generation for Success

How might a parent prepare their children for success? Dani Johnson, millionaire, sales coach, and multi-level marketer, is also a mother. She took time out of her successful life to write a book on how to parent: Grooming the Next Generation for Success. Then she gave us an interview in 2009. It is a keeper. Since I am once again encouraging faith for success and improvements in parenting and teaching toward student success, let’s hear Dani Johnson once again.

Here is a woman who gained great success. She trains others for success in the marketplace. Out of love for her children, she considered how to teach them to be the kind of people who will be successful. She gave them vision for success. She gave them tools for success. Then, she wrote a book to share that with us. This is a second opportunity for us. Perhaps you weren’t with us in 2009 when she gave us this interview. Take advantage of it now. Be a successful parent. Share this with your friends. Make a lioness tribe of successful moms because they have successful children.

Given that she is a mother and a successful millionaire, she is not as intimidated as a professional educator or pastor to say something that we all know. Discipline in parenting is needed to inculcate the kind of self-discipline that is needed as an adult. Perhaps that is more clear after this past year even than it was in 2009. Given that she is a sales trainer, she talks about “scripts” — what I would call “verbatims’ given my ministry training. In short, she helps her children know the words to speak. I love the story where she is helping her son see that chipping in to do housework really is part of the kind of leadership training that he desires. She transposes her conversation with him, mother-son, to his future conversation coach-to-athlete. Priceless. It gives vision, don’t you see? Also, when asked to do something that maybe wouldn’t be their preference, her children say, “Yes, mom, I would be glad to.” Self-restraint! Self-direction! Don’t we need a little more of that in the world, right now? Why then, do we provide scripts for resentment, self-indulgence, and violence? Or, while decrying discipline, then inculcate shaming, threatenings, and violence? HMMMM? Things we see so rampant today that we never thought of in 2009.

You will want to get the book! In her book, Grooming the Next Generation for Success, she also addresses how to help children avoid porn and how to deal with dating. It is amazing. Why, why why has no one discussed this before? And so helpfully?!?!? I sued to spend a lot of time giving you links to Amazon for the many books referenced here. Today, please go to Christian Book Distributors, or your other favorite bookseller. DO get the book.

See Dani’s book and course on Grooming the Next Generation for Success.

“You are just trying to make me feel bad” shifts responsibility to attack

One of today’s favorite devil phrases is “you are just trying to make me feel bad.” Notice this. Don’t let this pass. Don’t let your kids use this.

Example: College aged workers watch “Way of the Master” program on the internet that points out to people that they have broken the Ten Commandments and then offers the gospel. Their response was “they are just try to make us feel bad.” This disregard the offer of grace and denies the real culpability.

Example: A 30 year old teacher hires a counselor to help her solve some problems. IN the first session, the counselor attempts to find the limits of the problem and the parameters of the request. The counselee responds, “You are saying I am not managing well! You are just trying to make me feel bad.” She quits counseling.

Example: A junior college student failed to turn in assignments for the first half of the course, fails 2 tests and confers with the teacher. The teacher points out that if the student were to turn all assignment in for the remainder of the course and make a 100 on the remain exam, that the average would still not be enough to pass the course. The student responds, “You are just trying to make me feel bad.”

This strategy of “you are just trying to make me feel bad” denies the right/wrongness of the principle and instead substitutes a pseudo-psychological attack or the person working on principles or facts. It switches the topic from righteous to feelings – inappropriately. It attempts to deny responsibility by shifting focus, even blame onto the other person.

Do not let your children or students do this. From the time children are 2 or 3 they must be taught to recognize their responsibility. If they make poor choices, those choices are still theirs. This is vital. If they do not own their choices, they will be powerless to change those choices. Two year olds can understand “make a better choice.” Of course, we are taught and enforced against given much in the way of consequences. However, science is observing, as have common people, the result of education so progressive that consequences and moral training were denied children. They grow up to be young people who do not take responsibility. Who, in our examples above, fail classes, can’t take counsel, can’t well manage their affairs, and who can not accept God’s grace.

Maybe sometimes people should feel bad – a sorrow to repentance. Anybody have a good comeback?