Category Archives: Psychology and counseling

How to Pick a Counselor

A counselor can do great harm as well as great good. Do not go down the tubes with the pervasive idea that as long as you are talking and paying, it is all good, because they have no more responsibility than to sit in the chair while you talk. Further, don’t let the pervasive subtle hints of the philosophy that you also have no responsibility, that you shouldn’t be hard on yourself, and that “musts” and “shoulds” are unacceptable. These ideas have no basis in science, but are slopping beyond Clinical Psychology into the church. Here are my thoughts on how to improve the situation if you think getting a counselor might be helpful.

Agree, Sleep, and Stop Crazy the Screen Addiction — and everything becomes better

Practical Parenting… So Kids Stay Grounded In A Spinning World — Keith McCurdy

Dr. Keith McCurdy gives near panacea advice to families, youth : parents must agree, kids get 10 hours of sleep, and kids must do a social media fast… and then we can deal with whatever problems remain. Amazing. Rings true.
So, whether the problem is anxiety, ADD/ADHD, rebellion, mental illness or whatever else, if we start with a healthy baseline, then the problems reduce… and can be addressed.
Parental agreement (just on how to proceed in this instance rather than on everything) , sleep, and stopping the spinning crisis world of screens… yes, that looks exactly like the key to me.
McCurdy is a pyschologist and is interviewed by the Base Camp Live podcast, which centers on classical education. Everyone will profit.

Please see also, previous episode on gaming addiction.

Can you love someone and disagree with them at the same time?

For most of us, older folks, who have long been in church, we would think the answer to this question is obvious. Of course people and disagree about something and still love one another! How could it be any other way?
However, some folks think not. “This is who I am, so if you don’t agree, you don’t love me.”
Let’s consider the matter.
It is very important today.
Let’s also consider what it means to love, how to love wisely, and how to disagree properly.
Let’s consider what flows from each claim and counterclaim. Is it appropriate to say “You must agree with me completely or you are not loving”? What does it mean to a parent when a child says this? What might one say back?
Notice how this relates to child rearing, witnessing, evangelism, and politics today!
More, deeper Bible Study on this topic on What does it mean to follow Jesus, being loving, and yet standing against sin?
Feel free to weigh in… in a civil, polite, restrained way.