Category Archives: Child rearing

Respect Between the Sexes

As mentioned in our homeschool foundations, I am touching on the topic of respect between the sexes. I know I covered this in an episode, but couldn’t find it. Maybe it is in my Manners series? (Well, I will post that as a series, since it is connected.) Since I couldn’t find what I did earlier, I made an entirely new episode on why there should be respect between the sexes.

I also give some advice on seeking a spouse.

WRONG TEACHING IN GOVERNMENT SCHOOLS

Maybe respect between the sexes is not THE foundation for home education, perhaps. However, it might be a good foundation for life. And a good home education will probably result in a much better respect between the sexes than a government education. Government schools are teaching all kinds of crazy things right now having to do with sex and gender. Nothing is worse than sexually traumatizing young children with topics that are not appropriate for adults and certainly not developmentally appropriate. No communist country, no dictator country and no democratic country would permit it. But it seems to be adamantly, if often covertly, pushed today in our government schools.

TRADITIONAL VIEW OF THE FAMILY

In contrast to that, the traditional family depends upon respect for what each brings, order, duty and rights. Sociologists note that every society has a method of regularizing sexual relationships in a way that children get reared in what is optimal, or considered optimal, for that particular economy. Traditionalists would say that strong people come from strong families, that build strong communities. People in the Jewish and Christian tradition would point out that the family is supposed to represent a loving and just God.  Bible scholars will point out that the history of the children of Israel and the history of the early church suggests that women had far far more rights and more protection than did their counterparts in neighboring cultures.

KINGDOM LIFEWAY TOWARD SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS

We’ve talked about the Kingdom way of self-governance, encultured by an orderly and godly family. Thus, very little external government is needed. A great deal of learning the way to proceed is obviously learned in the family. Sociology would say that the family is the primary agent of socialization. (We see that communists would have it the other way around, but those experiments have to date all failed.)

In a godly home, with orderly and respectful relationships, it is likely that the lifeway of respect between the sexes will be caught. Given that most of us are striving to return to or get to a godly life, repenting of one that is less so, probably it is a good idea to directly teach respect between the sexes. We take care of each other; we do not hurt each other. Teach your children this. Help them make homes in which this is the case.

Of course, this is in contradistinction with “the strong take from the weak and glorify themselves because of it” which is true of unconscious capitalism and lying communism and devlish religious/spiritual systems.

NEW PRODUCT POSTED IN THE STORE ON THIS WEBSITE: Manners and Character

Frum it Up: Jewish Hotel — secluded pool https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SVF8Q4Coan4

Others addressing the same topic:

https://www.ucg.org/bible-study-tools/bible-questions-and-answers/how-can-parents-teach-children-to-respect-the-opposite-sex

Focus on the Family:

Teaching Boys to Respect Women

The Bible Teaches the Equal Standing of Man and Woman

Homeschooling Foundations

Once someone decides to home educate, then they nearly always want to know about curricula and how to teach reaching. Those are important questions, and I do answer them. But those are not the right questions, nor the first questions. First consider what your child needs to learn, and how they need to learn it. You can think through all that in my book, *Learn at Home For Great Shalom.”  (Also available in eformat, but I recommend getting the paperback.) Then you can choose your curricula.

For teaching reading and math, go to the store and choose the series on that topic: “How to Teach…”  Super sale; lowest price ever

The first task of home education is…. socialization! Or better said: conveying character. Or better said: discipling for success. Wow! so many linguistic landmines! Definitions have destinations!

Think through these things with me. HIstory, literature, and everything conveys a training in character, and that is more foundational even that reading. It helps the child learn to learn. It keeps the child from having to be controlled. It makes a strong family and a strong nation when people can be self-governing. That starts with virtue or character… in short, self-governance.

 

Senate will Vote on a Same Sex Marriage Bill Today

https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/urgent-senate-will-vote-tomorrow-on-democrats-radical-same-sex-marriage-bill/?utm_source=daily-usa-2022-11-16&utm_medium=email

Studies show that when same sex marriage is legalized and even when it is just practiced, it hurts children. See a study from Denmark on legalization. See Regnerus’ study for just practicing.

While we have no objection to civil unions, calling it marriage, is an affront to Christianity, any other traditional religion I know of, Western traditional culture — and most importantly : the well being of children.

Please check the foregoing article and call  your senators.

Should I Privately Educate My Child?

Should I homeschool?  Can you recommend a good curriculum? Can you recommend a good private school? What about sports? What about calculus and physics and… I am inundated with these questions right now. So, here are my answers.

Background

Many people are questioning whether they should homeschool or better, privately educate their children now. We are bewildered about the results of the elections here, particularly for the school board. The government schools have plummeted in academic achievement, and have suddenly and covertly introduced pornography into the curriculum down to elementary. This seems to be true in many metro areas, although not in the smaller towns here.

I do not understand the election results. I am not a political analyst. I do think I know the spectrum of opinion, because of where I live and because I taught Sociology. But there is much about the situation I can not analyze. I do, however, know the basic answers to the questions about private education. I thought I would mention the background so those who live elsewhere understand why the questions are arising.

Answers

So, I answer whether I think you should privately education. Yes, it is your duty as a parent. This is the center of the Judeo-Christian mindset. Yes, I know, seldom have we been taught this, but nevertheless, it is true.

Can I recommend a good school or  good curricula. There are many. However, the way to begin finding what is best for  your child, is to consider what all your child needs to learn, what method he or she learns best, and only then start shopping for curricula or school. For this, I have a guide: the book  Learn at Home for Great Shalom. Get it. Amazon will sell it to you, print it and ship it to you. It would be cheaper than consulting with me –which I would be happy to do. For that, please see:  www.orgstrat.net

Texas Home School Coalition   https://thsc.org/home/

Home School Legal Defense Association  https://hslda.org/

If you live in the north Austin Texas metro area, and you want to  join with me to start a school, or if you child(ren)  has/have a specific learning need, please see :  http://sarles.greatshalom.org/